In the past year, I have gone to a lot of life changes. Things were crazy. I was a bit lost and confused and even tho change is hard, uncomfortable and scary, sometimes it is necessary. It was for me. I went from having my own place, to living at my sister’s with just half of my clothes and my baby (and baby stuff). I went from network marketing to starting an online coaching business. Moved again into my parents house. Started a new local business and now moving into a new apartment of my own again. My husband was working cross country for 9 months. So I was basically alone. Yes, I had his support in all the decisions that I made, but at the end of the day, it was just me and my baby.
It wasn’t easy. A lot of doubt, fear, depression and anxiety surfaced. However, I managed to come out as better me. I was able to go through. Today I want to share with you how I did it. You can watch the video on my YT channel were I talk about this. However in this blog I want to share with you 3 things I implemented in my life in order to deal with all the changes and the struggles that come with it.
1. Make sure to stay in tune with yourself. You need to take the time and effort to stay connected to your feelings. You can do this through journaling, meditation or simply taking time for yourself. A long shower, bath or a walk. Whatever you need to feel into your feelings. When we are not tuning in, our feelings can be mistaken. When I was going through these changes, it came a time where I hated my husband or so I thought. However, I was mistaken. Of course I don’t hate my husband. I love him but there were times where we would get very stressed out and I’d mistaken feeling irritated with feeling hate. These ate two completely different feelings. The only way to actually figure that out is by checking in with yourself.
2. Be unapologetic about your needs! Basically, just do what you need to do, whenever you need to do it. If you need time to cool off (the irritated feeling) or if you need time for your self to de stress, do it. Most importantly, don’t feel sorry for it. We need to really take time te reset, rest and decompose all the things and thoughts that are going through our head. Never apologize for taking time for yourself. Remember self care is not a luxury, it is a necessity. Change is difficult. Change is uncomfortable. It is difficult to digest. Take time off and don’t ask for permission.
3. Accept the fact that at the end, you might not be entirely the same person. Although your authentic self will remain the same, we sometimes end up changing our beliefs and values in life. Our feelings change, our thoughts and our relationships. The people that were there, might not be still there till the end and you need to be ok with that. When it comes to things outside of YOU, you need to understand that some things come to your life to serve a purpose and then they might be gone after that. Accept the change (only if it’s for the better) and move forward. I wouldn’t have survived if I hadn’t learned this. Lastly, I want to tell you that even tho change can be painful, eventually, with time, pain will end. Change comes to serve a purpose. Wether it is to make you wiser, stronger, softer or more humble, every struggle comes with a lesson. Open your heart and mind to always figure out the purpose and I promise you, change won’t be as scary! Love, ItzelCuch