First of all, what is identity? Is it what you do? Is it where you work? Your identity is who you are as a person. Not a role. When it comes to motherhood, it is so easy to mistake being a mom for it being our entire identity. That is when depression comes and we start to feel lost and confused. Your identity is basically a bundle of your values, beliefs, personality and the things that define you and make you recognizable.
This next video was in collaboration with Erin May Henry. She has been my mentor in business and branding, for a few months now and now I have the pleasure and honor to collab with her. She shares some amazing tips on how to find your identity and how to reconnect with yourself. So go watch her video once you finish watching this one, where I myself share 3 tips on how to find your identity as a stay at home mom.
- HAVE A HOBBY YOU CAN DO ON YOUR OWN.
Staying away from the kids, away from the chores, from the husband and everything that has to do with ‘momming’ can really help you rediscover and reconnect with yourself. No matter what hobby it is. I personally got a part time job in order to have some time away from home. I didn’t took it as a job, I took it as a hobby and that is what helped me find balance and helped me remember I was more than only being a mom.
2. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER MOMS
It can be very easy to look at other moms and think that their life is perfect. Think that they have it all together. The thing is, that is not true at all. We don’t have it all together. Non of us. We are all just doing the best we can, with what we have. Comparing ourselves to others can make us start acting different. Start wanting to be someone we are not. We start losing ourselves because we might feel that the way we are handling things is not good enough. We lose our own identity trying to become someone else so we can serve our family better. Be true to yourself and your values. Everything is different for everyone. Do what works for you and your family only.
3. CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF EVERY SEASON
As our children grow, they change and so do our values, beliefs and methods. We start learning new things. Every stage in life brings a different set of struggles and lessons to learn. If you are feeling a bit lost as your children grow, make sure you are still staying tuned in with your inner self. Raise self awareness. Journal, meditate and be more mindful. Check in with how you feel. What has changed? Have I changed? Change is good and change is not a bad thing. Sometimes our identity might be shifting and we feel lost and confused because we are stuck in our old selves. Thinking that, that is the way we are supposed to stay. Embrace change and keep checking in with yourself as life goes on.
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