Ever heard this phrase ‘if you believe you can or cannot do something, you’re right?’
Our subconscious mind has these rules that it lives by. One of them is that your subconscious mind is never going to make you a liar. Whatever you keep telling yourself is what you will manifest. Every single day, it will look for situations to validate whatever you are saying to yourself. If negative thoughts surrounding your shortcomings are what you focus on, that is what your brain will translate for you. If you set yourself on the fact that you can’t succeed or be happy, that is exactly what your mind will prove to you.
My experience when I discovered how powerful my mind-set was mind-blowing. I realized it is my choice to change my life. It is up to me to shift my reality.
I used to believe I was unlikable and this always made me feel excluded. I was always focusing on what I thought were my negative traits. I started to have bouts of anxiety in social settings. When I discovered the power of my subconscious, I challenged my mind to believe that I am lovable. This led me to be open to people, friendships, and experiences. The moment I started speaking positively to myself, my relationships deepened and I connected more easily.
In addition to that, I began to like myself more and embrace every part of me.
If all you feed your mind is negativity, your subconscious will never recognize the potential in opportunities that come your way.
The subconscious mind does not know the difference between real and unreal. If you want to feel happy, you don’t need a certain situation to be happy. You can tap into that emotion by reliving a memory that made you happy.
We need to use this knowledge to our advantage. Once we change how we think, we can change how we live.
Isn’t it amazing to know how much influence we have over what we want our lives to be like?
When I was in the NLP, I was taught anchoring based on the work of Ivan Pavlov. He is famous for a series of experiments he did on dogs to birth the concept of classical conditioning. He would bring steaks to the dogs and he would use a bell to summon them. He did this every day and he observed that the dogs were always salivating before they even saw the food. What had happened was that the dogs had come to associate the sound of the bell with the food and anytime the bell rang, they already knew what to expect.
This experiment is also relevant to us, humans. We soon realize that a particular occurrence is followed by whatever thought, negative or positive, we focus on. That can set a trend for how we treat ourselves.
My husband left me a few months ago. I was devastated and beyond consolation. I started to feel unworthy of love because why else would he leave? I soon got tired of my sadness and I started to look for how to become empowered once again.
I decided to use the collapse anchor technique I had learned in my NLP training to get rid of all the negative emotions I was carrying around. The collapse anchor technique is simply replacing negative emotions with positive ones. I soon started to feel relief, healing, and subsequently, happy.
Now that you know that your subconscious mind is never going to make you a liar, what will you start telling yourself?