First thing I have to say is that, most of our health and happiness is 100% our own responsibility.
If there are 2 things I can have complete control of is how I take care of my health and deciding to be happy.
When it comes to health, I might not be in control of how long I live, or having an accident. However, I am in control of how I nurture and care for my body.
When it comes to happiness, again, I’m not in control of my surroundings but I am in complete control of how I decide to feel and the way I decide to handle situations.
I’ve been training to become an NLP practitioner and these are just some of the takeaways I have gotten from what I have been studying so far. As well, as learning from life experiences and lessons.
Cause is greater than Effect.
One of the biggest mistakes we make in life is thinking that we have to live in the effects of all the things surrounding us. When we learn that we can actually be the cause of the way we live our life, this. can be so empowering. So, it’s important to always ask ourselves, How am I at cause for this?
Where am I responsible for what is going on in my life right now and how can I CAUSE for things to change?
This quick mindset shift can really be a big game changer for us.
For example, if you are a few lbs overweight, we can simply blame everything around us. Right? However, if we decide, we can ask ourselves, how am I at cause for this? Why did I gain weight? Again, like I said in the beginning, if there is something we can have completely control of, is of how we nurture our bodies. We didn’t gain weight out of nowhere, just because! It was our eating habits that led to this effect.
Same thing with our happiness. How am I at cause for my unhappiness? Am I in a relationship that sucks the life out of me? Even if the other person is causing you to be in emotional pain, we are still in control of how long we decide to stay in that relationship, or in any other situation that we are not happy with.
It’s not about what you lose, it’s about what you gain.
The new year comes and we are decided to eating healthy because we have new fitness goals and so we start thinking “I have to let go of pancakes, donuts, soda and all the yummy foods we love. This is what causes our minds to put resistance because our subconscious cannot process the negatives.
For example, if I tell you right now, do
Not think of a red pen, even tho I just told you NOT to think of a red pen, I am 100 percent sure that you just pictured a red pen. Unconsciously of course. Again, this is because our subconscious doesn’t process the DO NOT, it only processed the red pen.
So, if you keep thinking, I cannot eat donuts, or telling yourself NOT to think of donuts, all your mind is going to focus on, is on the donuts and you will crave it even more.
If instead you decide to focus on what you will gain from eating healthy, your subconscious will focus just on that and the process will be a lot easier.
Focus on, why you decided to eat healthy in the first place. Like, fitting into that little black dress, having more energy, or simply feeling better.
You can also start focusing on healthy alternatives to the food you love. Like protein donuts and wheat pancakes. So that you are not thinking about you think you have to lose or let go of and start focusing on how much amazing things you will gain from this new healthy lifestyle.
When your car runs out of gas, you don’t leave your car, you fill it up again.
There will come times where you may feel like giving up on yourself. Give up on eating healthy because “it’s too damn hard” or “nothing is working like I want it to”. Your motivation will be gone, your energy will be low and you might feel like your self love jar is empty. When this happens, think of yourself as your car. Your car will run out of gas and when that happens, you not just going to leave the car on the side of the road. You are going to fill it up with gas, in order to keep going. This is going to happen your entire life! For as long as you own a car, you will have to keep filling it up with gas over and over again in order to keep advancing towards your destinations.
Same thing with yourself. You will keep running out of energy, strength and/or motivation. We just need to keep on fueling ourselves up every single time in order to keep advancing.
Stop quitting in yourself and fill yourself up!
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