CREATE YOUR MORNING BLISS LIKE A BOSS
Having a morning routine while being a mom can be super difficult to try to create. Simply because we hear the word routine and we feel like we have to do everything as a robot. Wake up at 5 am. Have coffee by 5:15 am. Journal from 5:20 to 5:40. Meditate from 5:40 – 6 am. Have breakfast by 6:30 am.
Oh my do I remember those days when I tried to have everything timed out and perfect.
It’s enough work to figure out what you will be cooking for breakfast, lunch and dinner. To top it off if you are reading this you probably are starting or already running your own business. Which is why you are here. Because you want a routine that will empower you. That will set you up for the day. That will make you feel good. Ready to take on the world. Ready to feel like a CEO that runs her business with ease and flow right?
This was something that I truly struggled with. Trying to get a perfect morning routine that would do that for me. I thought that I had to be super mindful and super spiritual and have this perfect routine set out. Wake up super early to journal and meditate and be super high on life AF!
Here is the truth, being a mom is hard. Sometimes you get sleep. Sometimes you don’t. Sometimes you feel like waking up early and sometimes you don’t. That is the truth about mom life. It’s ok to accept that this is our reality and that we can find a way to make things work. Even if we want to sleep in a little more!
This is why I decided to create this blog post talking about how I have structured my morning routine and how you can do it too, without feeling overwhelmed and stressed out about it. That is not the point of a morning routine. It is the complete opposite.
So, let’s get to it.
The first think you need to do, is figure out your intention for your morning routine. Why is this important? What do you want to get out of a morning routine? Is there something specific you want to work on. Do you want every single morning to be the same? Do you want to try new things out?
I have decided for me, that I don’t want to stick with just one thing. So, I have set me some different things I want to work on. For example, Monday, Wednesday & Friday my intention is to feel abundant through my day. So I focus my mornings on money mindset. Tuesday and Thursday I want to tap into the person that is healthy and has healthy habits. So I work on mindset for healthy living. Saturday is all about self-loving and Sunday is a completely FREE day. Meaning, I just let my body and mind do as it pleases.
So figure out what it is that you want to get from your morning routines and set out your intention for it.
This is super important because sometimes we try to incorporate things that don’t match with our time. Let’s be realistic here. If your child has a rough night, couldn’t sleep and therefore you couldn’t get any sleep, do you really think you are up to waking up super early in the morning to start your morning routine? I personally couldn’t. Waking up at a time when my body needs more rest defies the purpose of a morning routine. It makes me feel angry, irritated and not in my best energy.
Set yourself a time that feels good but that also gives you that alone time. For example, my son wakes up around 9 or 10 am. This is why I wake up around 8 or 8:30 am, so I have at least 30 minutes to an hour for myself. This is obviously different for everyone. So work with your schedule. Waking up at 5 am, for me feels unrealistic and not fun at all. My son can get super hyper at night and while he still doesn’t go to school, I can’t really tire him enough to put him to bed earlier. So what does your schedule with your children look like? Do they go to school? Do they wake up super early? Can you find even 20 minutes for yourself in the morning to do your morning routine.
Once you have an idea around how much time you have for yourself, it’s time to decide what to do with that time. I used to want to do meditation, visualization, journaling, tapping and a few other things in my morning routine. Honestly, instead of feeling super good afterwards, I felt like I had to be in a hurry to get things done before my son woke up and it was just so frkn exhausting. Sometimes he would wake up and I couldn’t finish my routine. Leaving me feel frustrated and I kept making myself wake up earlier. I didn’t get enough sleep and things just didn’t work for me.
I now personally use NLP techniques on myself. NLP provides subconscious changes that can last for a lifetime and can be done in a matter of just a few minutes. In the beginning of the week I figure out what things I want to work on. Limiting decisions, limiting beliefs, negative feelings etc. and I decide what technique I want to use and I put it into my calendar.
If you don’t know anything about NLP you can decide if you want to do journaling, visualizing or maybe a guided meditation you can find on youtube. Remember to think of how much time you have for yourself and take this time into consideration when thinking about what tools you want to use for a morning routine.
Life is unpredictable. Babies are unpredictable. Business is unpredictable. WE ARE UNPREDICTABLE. So be open for change. Know that it’s ok if sometimes you don’t feel like working on your ritual. If you want to sleep in every now and then do that. Don’t put yourself into a box thinking that just because you missed one day you have failed at it.
I can assure you that all these influencers you see out there have missed their morning routines a lot of times. They sleep in. They go to bed late. They wake up and go straight to get a burrito from stripes instead of a healthy breakfast. Know that not being perfect means perfection. No matter how strange that sounds.
Don’t Attach Yourself to a Timed Schedule if it doesn’t feel good.
I used to be so frkn obsessed with wanting to have time blocks for my morning routine. Hear me out, I truly believe time blocks help when you are trying to work on your business. Maybe wanting to get a certain task done or creating a new project. Time blocks work perfect for that. However, they don’t really work in a morning routine. At least not for everyone. So if you see that it’s not working for you, don’t do it.
Define what you want to get out of your morning, set yourself a time to do it, figure out what you want to do in that time and give yourself the freedom to do it in a very blissful way.
Here is how my morning routine looks like
I wake up around 8 or 9 AM
In my morning routine I have:
NLP technique/guided meditation/journaling (whichever feels applicable)
Checking/Planning my To-Do list for the day
I have around one hour to two hours to do this. I try to keep my NLP techniques or meditations in the 20 – 25 minute range.
At first it was a bit hard trying to not keep up with the time while at the same time getting things done in time. However, once I kept doing this every single morning, my subconscious started turning this into a habit and running in automatic. Subconsciously, my internal clock sets in and it’s not a problem I consciously worry about.
Then my kids wake up, I feed them and I’m usually ready to work by 11 or 12 pm.
We don’t have to become robots. We can work on our growth, mindset & personal development without doing it in a robotic way. It can be blissful, easy & with flow.
Live Your Bliss!